“One’s greatest challenge is to control oneself.”
Ice Cube definitely had something there when he coined the phrase “Check yourself before you wreck yourself.” Like the quote mentions above controlling oneself, it is perhaps the greatest challenge and internal struggle that we experience. Examples of this can happen when you are driving and are suddenly cut off by another driver, are screamed at by another co-worker or receive news that you earned the job promotion over another colleague, at the heart of it all, you are in control as to how you react.
Demonstrating self control relates to the competency of self management and how we regulate our emotions, thoughts and behaviors in different situations. These situations can quickly turn into positive or negative ones based on our reactions. Like the example used above, If I was cut off by another driver, I may honk the horn to let them know that I was there. This would serve as a way of letting them know they need to be more self aware of their surroundings when driving. Now if I used profane language towards them or even tailgated that car to show them my displeasure, what purpose would that serve? It cannot undo the action they had done to me previously and by reacting in the two ways just mentioned would make me no better than them. Again in the long run it would not change what was done to me first and as the old saying goes, “two wrongs don’t make a right.”
This lesson of controlling oneself is something that I am constantly working on with my students. When they feel they have been done wrong by someone or something I try to tell them that what happened happened and we cannot change that result. Its our response to the situation, how we react, there is where the true power liesL what we control. I also utilize the phrase “Stay in your lane” that one of my colleagues developed and use it often when problem solving with students so they realize, like in a car, its only “their car” (themselves) that they can control. If I can change one mindset, then that’s one more student on the self management train towards demonstrating self control.
What does this quote mean to you and how can you apply today’s message towards self management in your own life?