“Everybody in the world is seeking happiness—and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn’t depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People
The search for happiness. We all are seeking this. Some think that buying their happiness by engaging in a shopping spree will satisfy that need but what they soon realize is that it is a temporary fix. Others believe that the more money that is made this thirst for happiness will be quenched. But as the old adage goes, money doesn’t buy you happiness either.
To find happiness we really don’t have to travel far. It lies within each of us already. As we continue to learn ways to better management ourselves we realize that it is through self regulating our thoughts, emotions and behaviors in different experiences we partake in. As Dale Carnegie mentions outside conditions can never bring the happiness we desire but it through our inner conditions and controlling our thoughts.
I believe we can foster our own happiness by taking moments throughout our day to pause and reflect upon what we are grateful for. Have you ever just thought about what you are grateful for? I didn’t always, but through time and effort it has become a daily practice I use to conclude each day in my journal. When I write about the blessings I have: family, friends and the ability to inspire young minds each day (just to name a few), no matter how great or difficult my day might have been, when I read what I written, it brings a smile to my face and warms my heart and soul. The things I am grateful for is at the core of my happiness and when I really look at it from that perspective, it never really goes away.
Remember we control our inner thoughts and reactions to situations. Our perception on things becomes our own reality and can either ignite those positive emotions or extinguish them. Happiness is a choice and I think if we took the time to realize that it is within our power to achieve this, the world would be a happier place.
What does this quote mean to you and how can you apply today’s message towards self management in your own life?