“Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.”
Conflict. No one that I know of enjoys experiencing it either within ourselves or with others. A simple misunderstanding can lead to friction which can then lead to a intense, heated argument and then before we know it, we are in a full blown conflict. Often times this is due to differences in what we value, what motivates us and what there likes and dislikes are. This creates a communication gap between the parties involved and the conflict can continue to increase until someone becomes more socially aware of what is happening and try to understand the perspective of the other.
To understand someone does not mean we are agreeing with what someone is saying but rather it is acknowledging that we are able to empathize and respect their thoughts or opinions. Often times we are so caught up in making sure our point or belief is heard we become very resistant to anyone’s differing views, try to force our views upon them or shut them out all together which gets us nowhere.
John Maxwell has often said that understanding impacts our ability to communicate with others. Once we show others our interest in what they are saying they will be more willing to hear about our perspective in the same empathetic way we have shown them. Don’t wait for someone to make the first move in this unnecessary chess match. Be the one to recognize their needs and perspective before your own. This will lead towards a greater peace between one another and within us as well. Its a win-win.
What does this quote mean to you and how can you apply today’s message towards strengthening your social awareness skills?