“If you lose self-control everything will fall.”
Have you ever been caught up in the moment while watching a sporting event and “lost it” because your team lost in the waning seconds due to a made three pointer by the other team or your kicker shanked a short field goal that would have sent your team to the next round in the playoffs? You may have reacted by yelling obscenities at the TV, throwing the remote or stormed off to your room and slammed the door. Now the question is… was it worth it? Did your outburst really make you feel better or somehow change the events of what you just watched? The answer is a resounding no.
Self control otherwise known as self-management in Social Emotional Learning are one in the same. I can tell you first hand when I was little this was something I lacked big time. My Mom tells me stories of my temper tantrums I would throw if I didn’t get my way. I’d sometime go as far as banging my head on the front stoop. Who knows…it probably knocked some sense into me. But in all seriousness I only wound up hurting myself.
If you have a child in sports or did have a child in sports how would you assess your level of self-control? Did you yell at the players, the coaches, the refs who may have made a bad call or the other parents perhaps? What you may have failed to realize is how this portrayed yourself to others which includes your child. They see and become what is modeled for them.
Now this doesn’t only occur in sports. It can happen while we are driving, at our place of employment, with our loved ones….the list goes on and on. We need to remember that when we lose ourselves, we actually lose a lot more than that. We can jeopardize our relationships with others or make poor decisions based on emotions which can make matters worse. It is important that we learn to regulate our emotions and focus on our reactions to events that are most likely out of our control. When we do that we are more the master of our emotions rather than a slave to them.
What does this quote mean to you and how can you apply today’s message towards self management in your own life?