“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
I am sure there have been times when someone has said something to you that made you feel less valued. I know I have. I remember such comments like “You will never amount to anything,” “You are worthless, ” “Are you stupid or something?” or “I never loved you.” Pretty harsh and hurtful comments huh? Yes they were and made me feel worthless, that I’d never amount to anything. Those type of comments can make you feel like you are lower in rank, status or ability to the person that made those kind of comments. But this not really case at all because that is their perception and opinion, not yours. Only you can give those comments their negative power.
I’m sure there have been times when you have made comments you wish you could take back that you said to someone because maybe you had a fight with a loved one before getting to work or just a rough day at the office. Just the slightest thing gets on your nerve and at some point in the day you snap at that person. It is in that split second that you lose your self control and control of the situation. In both instances, either giving or being on the receiving end of a degrading comment affects our self management skills. It all comes down to our reactions in both instances.
We cannot allow ourselves to be judged by others when hurtful comments are made to us. At the same time we also cannot be the judge, jury and executioner and make someone feel inferior with our comments either. No matter what we give our consent either way: consent to allow someone’s comment to affect us or consent to allow ourselves to make a demeaning comment. We are in control either way. It is important to remember that if we allow this to happen on both sides of this inferiority coin we will never become the person we are meant to be in life. We need to believe in ourselves and others. That is how our self worth strengthens and our pay it forward mentality becomes contagious.
What does this quote mean to you and how can you apply today’s message towards self management in your own life?