Our Moral Compass: What Really Counts

“Mistakes are a fact of life. It is the response to the error that counts.”

-Nikki Giovanni

     Ok like ripping off a band aid, let’s get this out and in the open once and for all: no matter how hard we may try there is no way for us to avoid making mistakes. In sports there has never been anyone who has never thrown an incomplete pass, never struck out or missed a free throw. In school it is a rarity for someone to have aced every single test or project throughout their entire school career and never had made a mistake. In a relationship I’m sure there has never been one where there as never been an argument where someone said the wrong thing to hurt someone else’s feelings (and if there has been I’m sure they are not telling the truth!). I could go on and on with examples but you get the point and like part of our quote says: mistakes are a fact of life. And to add to this we need to accept this and get over it.

So what’s the challenge then? How to correctly respond towards making that mistake. For one thing we need to forgive ourselves and practice some self love because if we cannot forgive ourselves when we may a mistake how can we forgive others when they do? Have you ever had someone tell you of a mistake they may have made and your response is not to worry about it? But if you were to make that same mistake you’d do exactly what they were just doing and fret over that mistake and beat yourself up about it wouldn’t you? I know I have and I attribute that to the old adage: do as I say and not as I do which is totally wrong and this example proves it.

So in an effort to responding to situations differently we must first keep things in perspective. Did our mistake affect others or just ourselves? Have we made amends with that certain someone, even if that is ourselves, because even though we may never forget what may have happened because of our decision, there should always be the opportunity to forgive. It is important reminder that that the situation itself is the mistake, we are not. We are human and it is human to make a mistake. To put a positive spin on it and look at it another way, by making that mistake, we are now one step closer to getting it right the next time. The key in all this is to learn from it and plan out how we might make certain decisions differently the next time. If we don’t learn to take risks and make adjustments like a quarterback, hitter or basketball player would we might as well sit on the sidelines of our life and not participate at all. And what’s the fun in that? Like the words from Nike from years ago: “Life is short. Play hard.” Or in this case “Life is short. Make a decision. And make adjustments to those decisions when needed.”

What does this quote mean to you and how can you apply today’s message towards developing your responsible decision making skills?

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