“What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others.”
My parents always would tell my brother and I while we were growing up to treat others as you would like to be treated. I’m pretty sure that is a right of passage into parenthood that all parents have said to their children at least once. I know my wife and I have with our daughter and I am fairly confident you have or will too. What I didn’t realize was that Confucious, a Chinese philosopher, was the originator of this now infamous saying.
In order to establish and maintain healthy relationship skills with one another this golden rule of making sure not to do to others what you would not want done to yourself is one that we should always be mindful of. Self control plays a huge role in helping us to keep this intact. Like in a game of chess or checkers we have choices to make in each relationship that we have how great or toxic they can be. The right moves made we win, the wrong ones we lose.
We need to remember that in any relationship open and honest communication is something that needs to be established and really is the foundation of a solid relationship. Today’s quote hits this part of having and keeping a great relationship right on the head. Often times we withheld things we want to say and keep it inside until we reach our boiling point and say things we really didn’t mean that hurts the other person we just broke that golden rule. We might have used things that person might have told us in confidence against them as we knew it would hurt them.
Remember if we don’t want others to hurt us by saying hurtful things or bringing things up from the past then we need to be able to avoid doing the same thing. The word sorry can only be used so many times until it just becomes words. If you do in fact change and do not intently hurt them again with your words then you have in fact learned. I not, your relationship with that person is headed down a path of no return because each time you do it, it fractures another piece in the that foundation. It can be fixed but the hurt will always be there. No relationship can withstand this kind of constant hurt. So the best advice I can say are two simple but impactful words that can help you avoid breaking this golden rule in relationships: BE KIND.
What does this quote mean to you and how can you apply today’s message towards developing your relationship skills?