“The most dangerous phrase is, “We’ve always done it that way.”
Have you ever met someone that was so rigid in their decision making on things that it seemed they had already made up their minds on something even before you tried to present your side on things? I’m sure we all have at one time or another. They are the type of person that not matter the circumstance they will not bend on their decision. Examples could be from the most simplistic like someone saying they will only take showers at night to a teacher punishing you for not having your homework despite something important happened in your family that prevented you from completing it. Basically, its their way or the highway as the saying goes.
We often have experienced this in other situations like home or work. A business is struggling to create a good amount of revenue to help them stay afloat and despite the creative ideas that are being shared by the team, the CEO will not bend because they have always done things a certain way and the results have always turned out to be a positive as a result. At home the way we may have been raised by our parents, we think that is the best and only way to parent our children. However our significant other may have been raised a different way and feels just as strongly that their parents’ style is what would be best in raising the children. If there is not a compromise reached this can lead to a greater conflict within that relationship.
Be careful of falling into that “we have always done it that way” trap as this will ultimately hurt your decision making skills. It is true that you are whole heartedly considering your own well being when making these decisions but what about considering the well being of others in that same decision making process? Did you consider the feelings of others and how it might impact them? If you are doing that great. But if you aren’t you need to take a big step back and reflect on things for a little bit and be honest with yourself. Are you being mindful in your decision making? Have you portrayed yourself as being more open minded to new ideas? If you aren’t sure ask others for that honest feedback and be ready and willing to accept that feedback. And if it is warranted and it benefits the well being of everyone than make that change in your decision making. Don’t be an Ebenezor Scrooge. Be like a chameleon instead and change and adapt your decision making when it is needed. Take that leap of faith. You can do it. I believe in you.
What does this quote mean to you and how can you apply today’s message towards developing your responsible decision making skills?