“If we want to be more positive, there are two roles we cannot play: The Victim or The Villain.”
We all want to live a life that breeds positivity at all times. Is this at all possible? Never say never but it will definitely be a challenge. The one thing that StoryBrand CEO Donald Miller warns us of is that in an effort to be more positive we need to avoid playing two roles: the victim and the villain. In doing so, I believe we can play the role of the hero in our own story.
Now Miller says the victim asks for someone else to take responsibility for their lives. They lack the inclination of taking ownership for making decisions or even accepting the results of those same decisions. They are also very pessimistic and believe that they will never make it and there is nothing that can be done about it. In other words they feel a sense of hopelessness. To counteract any of this we need first take responsibility for ourselves and our thoughts, emotions and actions. In order to truly master self management we need to remember that we are in the driver’s seat of our own lives. We can choose to set our own goals and motivate ourselves towards achieving them. We need to be optimistic and embody a growth mindset where through our own hard work and determination our skillsets in the areas that matter most to us will only increase.
The other role to avoid that Miller warns us about is that of the villain. They are often the ones that seem very angry at life in general and believe that someone else is to blame for their problems. Now to fight off these urges to heading down this pathway is again controlling our thoughts, emotions and actions. Situations in life don’t always turn out the way we want envision them to but like I have said before that part is out of our control. We should never take things out on anyone else for how things may have happened because in doing so that is not going to change the outcome and all it will really do is hurt your relationships with others. Is that really worth it? I don’t think so. All problems have solutions. We just need to take the time and put in the effort to see what options are out there and problem solve. This might be something we cannot do alone and that’s ok. Besides, often times the villain never wins in the end and wouldn’t you rather be on the winning side?
Keep in mind that if we always play the role of the victim we will be drowning ourselves in our own helplessness. If we are always playing the role of the villain we will live a life of anger and bitterness. Either one is no way to live and will negatively affect our own mental health. Choosing to be the hero of our own story is the most viable option for our own well being and one I hope we all decide to go with.
What does this quote mean to you and how can you apply today’s message towards managing yourself better?