“You have to be transparent. You have to let kids know you aren’t perfect, you mess up just like them, you may not get it right every single day. But every day is a day to start over.”
-David Jamison, The Dope Educator
Transparency within any relationship is the key to it being a successful one. The Dope Educator David Jamison reminds us of this in today’s quote. Although he is referring to our transparency with children this is something that we need to do with adults as well. When we are transparent we reveal to others within our relationships that we have nothing to hide. In doing so, you in essence, establish yourself in their eyes as someone who is a credible and honest person. This sets up for what I believe is the important piece of the transparency puzzle: vulnerability.
Brene’ Brown says this about vulnerability: “Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage.” She goes on to say that people who wade into discomfort and vulnerability and tell the truth about their stories are essentially the tough ones.
The power of being transparent and vulnerable is undeniable and I believe is the backbone of making any relationship a successful and prosperous one. When we show children or adults that we are far from being perfect and that we have our own flaws, the result is that they in turn will be more likely to be more vulnerable and transparent with you too.
I used to tell my students like David Jamison said that each day is a new day to start over. Each day presents us with a new blank canvas affording us the opportunity to create whatever masterpiece we want to complete by the end of that day. If things don’t turn out the way we had anticipated that is ok because we will have the opportunity to get things right the next day. That’s the beauty of life. If we can convince our children of this as well as ourselves then we will be on path of strengthening the relationships with others as well as with ourselves.
What does this quote mean to you and how can you apply today’s message towards developing your relationship skills?