“You can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is change how you react to it.”
Let’s face it: some people can be unkind. In fact they can be downright rude to you and others for no reason. And you know what? That is their issue, not yours. By no means am I saying that the words that they may have said or the unfortunate actions that they may have done didn’t hurt you in someway, but unfortunately that pain will always be there. If we choose to react and retaliate what would this prove? Will it prove to them that the words that they said to us really mattered? That they in fact hurt our feelings or will it show them that you are refusing to let anyone knock you down? In the end does it really matter? All good questions, but in in my opinion if we show our proverbial hand and react on a way that is negative then we become no better than them. And the fact is we are better than that. We should never stoop down to someone else’s level. We must always rise above.
Gandhi says in today’s quote we essentially cannot change others and how they treat us or what they say to us. The only thing we can change is our reaction to what is done to us. I like to think of us as like the black jack dealer at a casino. They are the ones who actually are in control of the cards being dealt and when they deal and the other players lose, the house wins which is almost always the case sooner or later. So let us be the house and just win, by choosing not to show our hand and react. We are better than that and it is up to us to prove it.
What does this quote mean to you and how can you apply today’s message towards managing yourself better?