“You complete me.”
One of the most powerful scenes in the 1996 movie Jerry McGuire that starred Tom Cruise and Renée Zellweiger was when Cruise’s character, sports gent Jerry McGuire has an a-ha moment towards the end of the film. His one and only sports star that he represents Rod Tidwell (played by Cuba Gooding, Jr) had a great night as a football player and it was in that moment Jerry McGuire realizes that despite the big night he couldn’t share with the one person he wanted to the most: his wife played by Renée Zellweiger who had been a part of this rebuilding process of the business. They were actually in a rough patch within their relationship to until this scene where he comes home into a room full of divorcee women to find his wife.
Jerry: Hello? Hello.
I’m lookin’ for my wife.
If this is where it has to happen, then this is where it has to happen.
I’m not letting you get rid of me. How about that?
This used to be my specialty. You know, I was good in a living room. They’d send me in there, and I’d do it alone. And now I just…
But tonight, our little project, our company had a very big night — a very, very big night.
But it wasn’t complete, wasn’t nearly close to being in the same vicinity as complete, because I couldn’t share it with you. I couldn’t hear your voice or laugh about it with you. I miss my — I miss my wife.
We live in a cynical world, a cynical world, and we work in a business of tough competitors.
I love you. You — complete me.
And I just had —
Dorothy: Shut up. Just shut up. You had me at hello. You had me at hello.
They then embrace and ultimately get back together. That right there is an example of the power that our relationships can and are supposed to have. Those three words that he says to her, “You complete me” expresses the fact that he was incomplete without her which meant that he needed her to become a complete person which led him to the conclusion that without her, he person could not grow. I believe that this is the same for us in that we need to have relationships with others in order for us to grow as individuals too. They help to complete us in discovering who we are and ultimately shows us that we are better because they are are a part of our lives. Relationships and the skills we can acquire from engaging in them can be very powerful and meaningful if we allow them to be and take the time to foster them.
What does this quote mean to you and how can you apply today’s message towards developing your relationship skills?