“More than anything else, you’re going to need the ability to communicate authentically, to speak so that you inspire the people around you and to listen so that you continue to learn each and every day on the job.”
In today’s quote Chief Operating Officer of Facebook Sheryl Sandberg mentions three qualities we must all possess in order to be our best self as it pertains to creating, maintaining and sustaining positive relationships with one another: communicate authentically, speak inspirational words and to listen in order to grow each and every day.
When we communicate authentically we imply to others that we are ones that are fully trustworthy in what we are saying. To me this comes from not only our words but also through our actions. Our words should come from the heart and are ones that promote honesty and are direct. I believe that this is what most of us would want another person to be with us in any relationship. But words can only go so far as it is the actions behind those words that actually makes a trusting relationship. Overall, when we are authentic we are in actuality revealing to others what our true selves actually are.
The second point in Sheryl Sandberg’s quote is that when we speak to others it’s purpose should be to inspire others. I believe that when we inspire others we are encouraging them to be the best that they can be; that the only limits we put on ourselves are the ones we create in our own mind. When I inspire others, I actually inspire myself too to keep reach others to bring out their best. It gives me such positive vibes and an energy that doesn’t dissipate; it rather intensifies with each person I can inspire. We should not speak to just hear ourselves talk but have a purpose in doing so. Our messages of hope and promise only are meaningful when the words that leave our lips resonate with those we wish to inspire. They become more than just words. They become a cry towards making themselves better.
And lastly, listening. Listening to others, listening to ourselves on what truly matters most. It is through us being active listeners, engaged with what others are actually saying to us. Listening with empathy, not sympathy. We owe that to everyone that has ever mattered to us in any relationship. People know when someone is actually listening, and know when someone who is just hearing them. They are are ones that have that social awareness piece that our society so desperately needs in this day and age. They have the innate ability to remove their own thoughts and feelings and look openly and honestly through the lens of whom they are engaged with during the conversation. They are able to look into someone’s soul I think and truly know who they are as far as what they value and what their moral principles are.
Relationships are essential in business and in life. We cannot be without them. We need one another and if we can take these three abilities and further foster them to become permanent fixtures within our relationship toolbox, then we’d all be better for it.
What does this quote mean to you and how can you apply today’s message towards developing your relationship skills?